Mindset and beliefs are a funny thing!
Most of our beliefs and values are programmed before the age of 5, yet they stay with us for our life, unless we decide to change them! And they create our behaviours!
When we reach the age of approximately 12 yrs old our brain goes through a pruning process, disregarding anything we haven't used, that's why people are the way they are and it takes deep inquiry to change that! But we have to be curious to want to otherwise it all lays dormant, stuck (think of the film inside out)
Most of our beliefs and behaviours running default in our subconscious without any awareness of how each one impacts our life (or those around us) and who we become and how we then parent our own children if we have them!
Add in generational patterns and ancestral epigenetics, cultural and society conditioning mixed with any trauma big or small!!! And you have a big mix of sleepy stuckness and invisible limitations.
We can have quite a lot of preconceived/ preconditioned ideas and values that aren't actually our own because they have been inherited!
Quite often we have a default and that's often the hardest thing to overcome as we can't conceive or imagine what life is like beyond that?
As "You don't know what you don't know right?"
AND
"When you do what you've always done, you get what you've always got"
Until you realise you don't want to anymore, something shifts and you realise hang on, life doesn't have to be this way!
Plus when we are always in our head, how can we truly feel the emotions that bring us what we truly want in life!
We can need to feel from the heart to feel truly alive, that deep satisfying knowing of feeling so good, we embody the feelings and sensations we want to create feelings like joy, love, freedom we experience them in our body, and to do that we need to be in the present moment.
Our brain is clever and unreplicable, but we can also easily convince it through our imagination to recreate a moment from the past or future, it can't tell the difference and treats it as a present feeling. Which to me is why standard talk therapy doesn't work.
Just take a moment to recall the thought of you favourite food, may a roast dinner? Chocolate? Whatever it may be, really envisage the smell as you inhale through your nose, experience the texture, as it melts in your mouth, the taste sensation so delicious... are you salivating?
Or maybe even something you dislike immensely a pungent smell, the feeling eurgh, it's so gross you might vomit, you're made to touch it and feel shivers in your body)!
It's quite easy to experience feelings even when they are not happening to you! A sad scene in a film and you find yourself crying!
Since giving up my career 14 years ago to have children, I have trained and retrained, learning so much about myself and overcoming challenges and illness both mentally and physically, realising I have a whole body full of suppressed emotions because I was a "good girl!".
I inhaled everything that could help me on my journey, totally inspired and empowered by my teachers. I deep dived and studied everything, every angle, wanting to understand and remember it all, because I knew if could help me, it could help others too, I'm an empath and sometimes I can feel so deeply I can't work out what's mine and what's other and that's been a big curve ball protecting my own energy and space. However it does mean I can tap into others fairly easily and see their pain and discomfort, I just needed to make sure I didn't stay there.
But this was the thing, I didn't want anyone to feel alone and stuck the way that I had especially in those deep dark moments of my life, where I felt everyone would be better off without me, so I made it my intention to help others who were like me. And I have, many people over the years. As others have helped me.
I am beyond grateful to the support of teachers, mentors, guides, friends and family especially my rock of a husband whose unconditional love is beyond measure.
I have been so grateful to have the opportunity to help share my knowledge and wisdom to help others as it has helped me and have spent the last 14 years gifting and exchanging my services and offerings or charging very little because I just wanted to help!
I realise now that this has contributed to burnout many times and has put strain on my relationships. Especially for my husband to provide for me and the children and the children who I wanted to spend time with but was busy learning new things ironic as it was to help me be a better person and a better mother!
While I am forever on a continual learning journey and helping others gifting my time, skills and experience, I don't regret any of it and hope I made a difference even just to one person, to someone feel a little better somehow in this crazy world?
However, I have spent most of my life living in lack mentality and victim mode, not feeling good enough. So I keep investing in myself and my business in the hope that I can change, this last year alone I've spent well over £5000 learning new skill sets, attending trainings, learning new skills, tapping into old and sacred ones, not to mention hours and hours of time, energy and time away from my family so I can heal myself and to share with you, but still never feeling quite good enough. The learning will never stop but the balance has changed.
Until recently I've felt shame and judgement whenever I talk about charging for my services, and literally running my business almost like a full time hobby, dedicating ALL my time overcoming my own challenges and ALWAYS seeking to learn and help others!
Often at the detriment of my own health and family time.
Why? Simply because I feel so passionate about making a genuine difference in the world to make it a better place. But more importantly so that my kids can live in a world of love and have a future of peace.
So to do that is my declaration as to why my prices are going up.
Because I know I can make a difference in the world a genuine difference because I have spent the time, money, energy, got the scars and healed wounds, the dried tears and overcome the challenges. But to feel the freedom myself that I wish for others it has to be an exchange and a balance.
Life is a journey and it is what you make it, life is also short and I intend to spend mine loving those around me deeply and wanting to bring kindness, fun, joy and adventure generously into my life and to all who I can.
Loads'a'Love
Becky xxx
This video Prompted this post to explian the concept
Big Changes Are Coming…
On February 1st, I’ll be relaunching my business under a new name: Becky Bohan - Your Soul Guide.
For those of you who’ve known me as The Mother’s Touch, this is a moment of transformation—one that reflects how far I’ve come, how much I’ve grown, and the depth of the work I now offer.
This shift feels both scary and exciting, but it’s a pivotal step in fully embracing my worth and the value I bring to the people I work with. With this evolution, my prices will be going up to honor the energy, time, and heart I pour into this work.
Here’s a little preview of what’s coming:
The Soul Alchemy Sessions
Three powerful one-to-one subconscious healing sessions, designed to help you break through blocks, release what no longer serves you, and align with your highest self. These sessions are intuitively led, tailored to exactly what you need.
The Soul Empowered Path
A transformational group program, evolving from Empower Her, now at a much deeper level. This program incorporates breathwork, subconscious healing, and connection with like-hearted souls.
The Soul Unbound Retreat Day
A deep-dive immersion into subconscious healing and empowerment. We’ll work with belief coding, inner child healing, trauma release, ancestral healing, breakthrough breathwork, sound healing, and more. This day will leave you feeling lighter, aligned, and supercharged to live your fullest potential.
Weekly Breakthrough Breathwork Sessions
Held both online and in-person (Essendon Village Hall), these sessions provide regular, powerful healing to clear your mind, body, and energy.
The Self Care Self Love Retreat
This beloved retreat will continue to run twice a year, in spring and autumn, offering a sacred space for deep connection and self-nurturing.
Free Masterclasses
I’ll also be offering free masterclasses to support your mindset and healing journey—watch this space!
This new chapter is filled with new offerings, new energy, and a renewed commitment to supporting you in becoming the most empowered, authentic version of yourself.
If you’d like to know more about the “why” behind this shift, you can check out my blog post linked in comments for the full story.
I’m so excited to share this next part of the journey with you! Thank you for your ongoing love and support.
Are you ready to walk this path with me?
Keep an eye out for updates and new opportunities to work together.
Let’s make 2025 your most soul-aligned year
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